No hiding if you were not invited
I was recently very fortunate to have four of our five member close family with us in Palm Cove for my niece’s wedding.
It was a wonderful couple of days where we all had time to sit and have coffees or lunch and not be racing off anywhere.
Many photos of the wedding were exchanged and once again we marveled at the wonders of iPads, iPhones and other contraptions.
You certainly learn something new every day. A discussion I had with one on my daughters was enlightening. Of course all readers may be well ahead of me here, so sorry if I am behind the times. And I must admit I am enlightened by our three children on a regular basis!
This conversation started with a discussion of how you decide who is invited to weddings, parties, events etc, be they family related or not.
My daughter then said that one of the best things she remembered about the school she went to was that they had a policy of all party invitations having to be mailed (snail mail) to invitees. They were never allowed to be given out at school as those who were not invited could well have their feelings hurt.
I do remember that now, however have not thought about it for at least 15 years.
She then explained that with Facebook and other social media platforms there is no hiding what events happened, no hiding who attended, no hiding what a great time they were having – but most of all, no hiding if you were not invited.
So disappointment, hurt, feeling left out, perhaps shock that this was not expected, and on and on the possibility of feelings go. It’s now displayed for the world to see.
I don’t have an answer to this conundrum; and even though I like to think of myself as a solution focused person, I’m not sure there is a solution.
I do know that I hate the thought of children’s feelings being hurt in such a way.
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